Get out of your head! Tips to help deal with negative self talk.

“Worrying never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only robs today of its joy”     Leo F. Buscaglia

Don’t be fooled. Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time. It is a battle that we all fight! Whether it is about body image issues, career, school or personal relationships with friends, family, coworkers or significant others. Whether we feel unfulfilled or unappreciated, or we for some reason or the other feel that we aren’t where we want to be in life.

Whatever the reason, allowing this type of negative thinking to consume you will  do you more harm than good. Negative thoughts bring cloudy overcast weather to what could have been a sunny day, it makes us feel unmotivated, worried, depressed, tired, stressed out, apathetic.

So how can we deal with this negative self talk? How can we bring some sunshine to our cloudy days?

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Sun peeking out from behind the clouds

1) Positive affirmations

Sometimes you really have to be your own biggest cheerleader. It is so easy to be your biggest critic but it is more difficult to be your own supporter. But at times, a supportive inner voice is what we need.

2) Start a gratitude journal.

This is something that I have come across quite often on self development websites or videos. It involves writing down all that you are grateful for today. You can either journal in the morning when you get up, in the evening or whenever you have time. The difference with this journal and other types of journals is that you are concentrating on the positives aspects of your life. I find this particularly useful and I tend to use sometimes when I am having a rough day. At your low points, it is good to take some time to remember your blessings.

“Breathe, it’s only a bad day, not a bad life.” Ashley Purdy

3) Meditate

There are a plethora of guided meditation videos available on youtube and there is also a free app available online called Headspace which offer 3 min, 5 min and 10 min meditations. I find guided meditation detaches you from the thoughts racing through your mind as you spend sometime by yourself and concentrate on breathing, being more aware of your body and visualization.

4) Yoga

Yoga also provides a similar experience, but it important that while doing yoga you are not just doing the poses but feeling the flow of the movement through your body. Yoga is about being connected and forming a union between mind, body and spirit.



5) A good book

A good book. Reading a good book is also a way to move away from your negative thoughts. Read books that uplift you or entertain you rather than depress you. Some of my favorites include:

For entertainment – Born a Crime by Trevor Noah, The Dragon Can’t Dance by Earl Lovelace, King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table by Roger Lancelyn Green and Ways of Sunlight by Sam Selvon.

For inspiration – The way of Rest by Jeff Foster, Man’s search for meaning by Viktor Rankle and The Greatest Salesman in the world by Og Mandino

6) Take a social media break 

There have been many studies conducted over the past few years which show that people who spend more time on popular social media such as Instagram and Facebook, tend to have higher levels of depression.

So, maybe its time to take a little break! Log off from Facebook or Instagram, stop comparing yourself to others. Remember on social media people tend to only highlight their good times. Sometimes the last thing you need to see when you are feeling down is someone else “living their best life.”


Do you have any other ways that you deal with your negative thoughts? Be sure to share them in the comments.

Much Love


8 thoughts on “Get out of your head! Tips to help deal with negative self talk.

  1. Really needed to read this, thanks! I keep forgetting these, so it’s always good to be reminded. Because they really help. Also, colors. I bought myself a coloring book and colors, but also when I play around with colors for my pictures, I find that the process can be quite soothing. Or I understand something about my feelings based on the color I chose. If that makes any sense.

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    1. That is so true! Colouring is a fun and relaxing activity. 🙏 Its so nice to see how you bring the black and white to life and yes it could be dependent on your mood…blues…darker hues.. when you maybe feeling a little “blue” compared to reds and brighter colours when you are in a radiant mood 🙏

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      1. You just named some of my favorite colors. 😆😎 Seemingly unrelated, when you mentioned red and blue, I remember reading somewhere ages ago that in Europe (or maybe it was actually England where it started) they dressed girls in blue and boys in red 100 or so years ago.

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